Are You Being Abused?

Assess your relationship by answering the following questions:

  1. Do you find yourself apologizing to yourself or others for your partner’s behavior when they treated you badly?
  2. Afraid to disagree with your partner?
  3. Have you been wrongly and repeatedly accused of flirting or having sex with others?
  4. Are you forced to justify everything you do, every place you go and every person you see to avoid his/her temper?
  5. Have you been afraid to say no?
  6. Does your partner text or call you constantly wanting to know where you are, who you’re with and what you’re doing?
  7. Have you become secretive, ashamed or hostile to your family because of this relationship?
  8. Are you unable to go out, get a job or go to school without his/her permission?
  9. Have you been hit, kicked, shoved or had things thrown at you?
  10. Does your partner put you down by name-calling and humiliation?
  11. Does your partner say it’s your fault, promise it won’t happen again, but then it does?
  12. Has your partner destroyed your property or threatened to kill your pets?

If you answered yes to one or more of the above questions, please take it seriously.  You are not to blame and you are not alone. To speak to an advocate, please call ACCESS-York at 717-846-5400 or 1-800-262-8444.  ACCESS-York can provide options and help you plan for your safety.


Rights of A Healthy Relationship

You have the right to…

  • Be treated with respect.
  • Live without fear of abuse.
  • Not be perfect.
  • Constructively express your feelings and opinions.
  • Fulfill your own needs.
  • Reject stereotypes and set your own standards.
  • Participate in decision making, to change your mind, and to say no or disagree.
  • Privacy and time alone.
  • Maintain old friendships and make new ones.
  • Leave at any time for any reason.